Selfies to connect

Taking sensual pictures of myself felt uncomfortable, little stupid and risky. Even trying to take the picture got me thinking to my lack of sensuality increasing my tension immediately. And the risk related to having the picture in my modile was a clear limit to me.

I started my sex coaching sessions to talk more about my libido, we spoke about how playful I was in my intimacy alone and when I clarified my thoughts about selfies or pictures I got one question: when is the last time you played with your sexiness in front of the mirror after a shower?

It got me curious to do it for myself and in a safe environment that would make me comfortable. I started to take few pictures and pretty fast Instead of searching for a perfect pose or a flattering angle, I started noticing small details: posture, light, expressions, and the way my body moved naturally or not.

Each photo created a small shift in perspective. Familiar insecurities became less dominant, replaced by a more curious way of looking at myself. The camera offered a distance that made it easier to see my body without the constant inner commentary. I started to find pleasure in the process itself. Adjusting the light, experimenting with positions, and watching how the images changed created a quiet sense of exploration. The photos were less important than the experience of paying attention.

Those pictures were never meant for sharing or for attracting attention from others. They remained private. The goal was simply to create a space where I could connect with my own sensuality without pressure or expectations.